Intro to my new book, Hey! Where’s My Soulmate?!

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As a professional psychic and minister, I have been privileged to meet so many fascinating and beautiful people.  Oftentimes, they are in a state of torment, struggling to make their lives better, on the brink of the next best thing, the newest chapter. They seek information about any subject you can imagine, but by far, the question I am asked most often is “When am I going to meet someone special?” They are fed up with the “Learn to love yourself first, only then can someone else love you” BS.  They’ve self-helped and yoga-ed and affirmed and internet dated until they are blue in the face, and they still spend every Sunday morning reading the paper alone and every Sunday evening wrestling with the cat for the covers.  For many of them, their ideal wedding dress style has come and gone three times, their biological clock is ticking, and Dammit!, they are not getting any younger.

Many of these clients shop psychics, making the rounds of my colleagues and me, hoping that one of us, any of us, will have the magical, mystical piece that will solve the puzzle of their loneliness, only to hear vague responses about some not-too-distant, but still too distant future and platitudes about keeping a positive, open mind.  (Honestly, I don’t know how it is that more psychics don’t get punched in the face. Thank God for Skype!) I’ve been that person, and God bless the colleagues who tried to help me, who patiently counseled my loneliness-induced, impatient insanity.  What lovelorn clients don’t get, and what I didn’t get, was that we were barking up the wrong tree, asking the wrong questions, and missing the answers right in front of us.  The whole process is both more complex and more straightforward than I could possibly have imagined.

To be blunt, you cannot force the Universe to spit out your soulmate.  As the old saying goes, “Your arm’s too short to box with God.” But you can change your view and set the stage for spirit to honor your request.  In short, I learned the hard way that every relationship has something to teach you, and until you cut the defensive crap and see your own role in failures of past relationships (and some of those may have been in past lives), you will never really learn what you need to in order to get past your immediate lesson and graduate to the kind of amazingly honest, intimate, earth-shaking love you crave.  In other words, if you don’t take a hard look at yourself and face your own shit, you’ll never be ready for what you say you want.  And the Universe will keep presenting you with the same lesson over and over again until you master it.  (Reflect on past relationships with Ms. or Mr. Workoholic #1, #2, and #3, and your hot date with potentially Workoholic #4 for dinner on Friday, for example.) You can’t go on until you break out of the pattern and change your behavior. Spirit could drop Mr. or Ms. Right into your lap right now, and it wouldn’t work out unless you had already “prepared the way” for the relationship.  (I learned that one the hard way, too.)

In the state of NY, we psychics are legally bound to remind prospective clients that our services are not meant to be taken as medical, legal, financial, or business advice and are strictly for entertainment purposes.  I usually tell my clients that readings are for “self-reflection purposes.” May God grant that this book may be entertaining and foster self-reflection.

This book is dedicated to all those lovely, lovable, and loving, talented, successful, nice people I wish I could take home and find the perfect mate for.  You do deserve it, and you are great.  Not finding your partner is not a matter of you not being good enough, sexy enough, or anything “enough.” It is about facing your flaws, learning your lessons, stepping out of old patterns, and being ready for what you say you want. I can’t guarantee that this book will magically change your lives, but maybe it will inspire a few laughs and help you find a new perspective as I try to answer the question, “Hey! Where’s my soulmate?!”

Free Tarot Workshop 3/25/15

I will be conducting a tarot workshop at the John C. Hart Memorial Library in Shrub Oak on Wed., March 25, from 7:30-9:30PM. I hope to see you there!

Here is the promotional description for the event:

Join a professional psychic for an intriguing exploration of the tarot. This 2 hour workshop will delve into the process of choosing a tarot deck, formulating your own questions, completing the Celtic Cross spread, and interpreting the cards. Guests will have the opportunity to look at several tarot decks and ask questions about divination and metaphysical topics. Feel free to bring your own tarot deck if you have one. During the workshop, several volunteers will be randomly chosen for a free reading (a $20 value). This workshop is free to the public.

Ace of cups from the original tarot deck, the Visconti-Sforza, from the 15th century.

Ace of cups from the original tarot deck, the Visconti-Sforza, from the 15th century.

Freedom to Respond Instead of Reacting

Frankl Response Freedom

What an inspiring statement! Being free to choose the next step and to create something positive no matter the stimulus in our life is the essence of what it means to be human, aware, and a force for kindness in the world. In choosing to react in a way that inspires others and keeps us focused on a positive outcome for everyone involved, we are not only improving our own lives, but we are also literally making the world a better place, one interaction at a time. We can stop the snowball of negative responses and express a willingness to receive and enact something better and more affirming. This is key to manifesting happiness, abundance, and opportunity in our lives.

What’s more, when we stop to pause, we permit the possibility of a more positive, new perspective of the situation. At the exact moment we receive the stimulus (such as information, a feeling, something breaking, pain, etc.), we may not be able to see another view or a way out, but the time we take to consider can allow us to receive a new view. Take those moments to walk, pray, look at something beautiful, create, read poetry, light a candle, whatever inspires you. Focus on something positive and give yourself a moment to receive what you need to see the benefit in a situation. Those moments are not only a gift for yourself, but for those around you as well, because they help us to manifest what we truly want.

I hope everyone chooses a positive way today. Even if that path should lead you through some piles of sodden snow, may it lead you to a place of peace, happiness, and inspiration.

Purple Egg Deer

Benefits of the tarot

Garth Stein wrote, “That which we manifest is before us; we are the creators of our own destiny. Be it through intention or ignorance, our successes and our failures have been brought on by none other than ourselves.”

This quotation captures a dilemma that we face as human beings. How can we know which aspects of our life are outside of our control— simply part of destiny— and which can be changed according to our personal goals? Especially in trying times, it can be very difficult to understand the direction of our life path. When life gets tough, matters of career, love, family, and health become extra important and demand our attention.

Since the beginning of time, people have sought out the help of those who are somehow able to read the intentions of fate, to help people to understand the world around them. Carl Jung, one of the fathers of modern psychology, added further that “When an inner situation is not made conscious, it appears outside us as fate.”

Whether or not one believes in the existence of destiny, supernatural forces, or psychics, or sees the world as a projection of our psychology and cognitive function, I can offer services that help you access additional perspectives about your life and your true desires that will bring happiness and clarity.

Have you been feeling stalled in your life path? Being spiritually and psychologically aware can make the difference between taking initiative in your life or watching everything and everyone pass you by. The tarot can help to uncover new information that may help you to progress on your life journey.

Whether you would like my help to access the supernatural, or to find someone patient and understanding to talk with about a situation that is troubling you, or to entertain your friends with stories about their future, give me a call. If you are interested in learning more about the tarot or other esoteric topics, I can construct a workshop to fit your group’s interests, size, or time constraints.

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The Wheel of Fortune from the original Visconti-Sforza tarocchi deck.

The Wheel of Fortune from the original Visconti-Sforza tarocchi deck.